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Sunday, June 5, 2011 1:44:34 PM PDT

Sock it! To Sock or Not to Sock, That is the Question! (Men's Fashion Tip Series, Part 3) by Salvador de Lara Belisario V, M.A. If this title doesn’t get your attention, not many will! Although socks are a small part of your wardrobe, it can make or break your entire ensemble. There are few simple rules about socks enumerated below in random order: 1) To sock or not to sock; that is the question! Men wearing leather dress shoes with NO socks! Really? I understand you’ve seen them on designer print ad campaigns and/or runways, and I previously suggested getting tips thru these media, but you do NOT always have to emulate everything you see! Practicality and common sense still need to be considered. The “no socks” fad may be the “norm” in certain regions, but not in mine. Just because Zegna or Armani style their models a certain way by not putting socks on them doesn’t mean we have to agree; they are, after all, just mortals like you and I. Case in point: just because Mohawk hairstyle is “in,” it doesn’t mean, we, too, should look like roosters or show horses in heat…fads are NEVER for everybody! I happen to believe that socks were invented for a reason: to minimize excessive sweating, add comfort, and keep your feet warm and clean(er.) If you take a poll in the U.S., I’m willing to bet that vast majority of people, especially women, will agree that men should wear socks when wearing leather shoes…it’s required in most professional jobs and of course, the hygiene factor is paramount. Sure, some more casual footwear would look funny with socks on (Espadrilles, driving shoes, top-siders), but that’s why I rarely wear them. Show me a man whose feet don’t sweat excessively and who can keep fresh smelling feet in any shoes without wearing socks…it’d be rare feat, pun intended! 2) Shorts, sandals and socks! Unless you’re 90, retired and could care less about anyone’s opinion, then do NOT wear socks with your sandals! It’s also a rare occasion that you’d be wearing shorts (cargo, casual, surf, beach type) with socks because most of the time (hopefully), you’d be wearing sandals, flip flops or casual footwear. Don’t even mention dress shorts, either, unless you’re referring to the 80s! Shorts and sandals = no socks; exception would be athletic activities when you should wear ankle socks with shorts. 3) Now, the old age question: do your match your sock color to your pants or shoes? There are differing opinions about this conundrum. Some will answer with “shoes,” but more will probably answer with “pants.” I’m going against the grain on this one. In my humble opinion, your socks are an extension of your shoes and/or feet, so in essence, they should match or compliment your footwear, and not necessarily your pant color. Picture this: Navy suit, with black belt and shoes. Which do you think will look better on, dark blue or black socks? Bottom line is, look in the mirror and judge for yourself or ask a fashion sensible person’s opinion when in doubt. 4) Keep them fresh, clean and hole-free. Whatever you do, you must put on a fresh pair of socks EVERYDAY, and when I say fresh, I don’t mean those that were hung to air with the intention of wearing them again. I mean, freshly laundered and bone dry! Never wear a pair of socks more than once without washing them…that’s just plain wrong and disgusting! Keep you sock drawer pretty full and constantly replenish the ones with holes, worn-out soles and elastic bands to minimize embarrassing moments. You’ll never know when occasions require that you take off your shoes (visiting an Asian household, going thru airport security or getting examined at your doctor’s office.) 5) Dress white socks are not as pure. Hopefully you don’t own a pair. Unless you’re a male nurse or it’s a required part of your uniform, I don’t know many men who own a white pair of leather shoes, hence talking about white dress socks seems irrelevant. There are always exceptions when it comes to fashion, of course with rubber/tennis shoes, the typical white sports socks are the go-to pair. 6) Multi-colored, crazy prints, novelty socks. Okay to wear them in the comforts of your home to keep your feet warm, but they are called novelty for a reason. They are usually meant as funny and/or gag gifts. Would you seriously consider a job applicant if you see Tweety Bird, Mickey Mouse or all the rainbow colors in his socks when he crosses his legs? I doubt it! It’s no secret that a lot of men break these simple rules on a daily basis, but you don’t have to. Now that you’re armed with a little bit of sock knowledge and etiquette, hopefully it will guide your future decisions concerning socks and footwear! --------------------- Disclaimer: this series is merely a personal opinion so take it for what it’s worth. It's not meant to offend anyone or be treated as gospel truth. At the end of the day, YOU have the final say about what you wear and the image you want to project. Many factors affect the do’s and don’ts in men’s fashion (geographical location, seasonal changes, personality types and field of work, to name a few) so not everything I opine about may work for you. I did not attend the Fashion Academy, do not hold a fashion degree nor do I claim to be an expert…just your average guy who apparently has a knack for fashion and an eagle eye for faux pas (or at least that’s what I’ve been repeatedly told all my life) so just paying it forward with some encouragement and positive feedback from a handful of friends after recently posting my published article...thanks for reading! :)
73 Comments | Posted in News By Sal Belisario, M.A.

Style and Fashion Do’s and Don’ts For Men – Part 2

Sunday, April 12, 2009 3:04:39 PM PDT

Separate the Men From the Boys:  DRESS YOUR AGE

There’s a big difference between being trendy and being stylish.  The outer image you project should complement your age, but do not base your fashion style exclusively upon age-based clichés.  If you want to stand out in a crowd, smartly comply with current trends but remember to infuse your own style and personality into your clothing or you’ll just be another face in the crowd.  Bottom line is, a 3-piece pinstriped suit should not be worn by a 22-year-old bank teller nor a 45-year-old man should sport a cock-eyed baseball cap at work or anywhere else for that matter.  Not only are these examples of what not to wear at certain ages, but where not to wear them. 

 

So how do you find a good balance between style and dressing your age?  Keep abreast with fashion trends by reading GQ or Esquire magazines, be cognizant of fashionable people around you and take notes, frequent the designer sections of your favorite department stores to get ideas and more importantly, use your own judgment and not go too astray from your comfort zone. 

 

According to fashion guru Clinton Kelly (What Not To Wear), “developing a deeper style, a more refined clothing palette, and a desire to simply dress better and beyond your years without violating certain cardinal rules. These rules mutate slightly from your 20s through your 40s, so we've laid out this guide to dressing by the decade.”

 

If you are in your 20s:

WEAR THIS: a tailored jacket.  Smart clothing can help propel you toward a career goal; slouchy looks can trip you up on the first few rungs of the ladder. The jacket is your go-to tool. It lets people know you're serious--about that promotion, that girl, or that girl's parents. In your 20s, begin building a closetful of carefully selected blazers and you're off to a solid sartorial start.

 

NOT THAT: trends that don't work for your body type.  If you have the thighs of a thoroughbred because of all the soccer you played in college, avoid skinny jeans or you'll look like a stuffed sausage.

 

If you are in your 30s:

WEAR THIS: better shoes.  Shoes are the easiest way to determine whether a guy is playing in the big leagues or just fronting. Suits can be difficult to gauge, but it's pretty easy to tell the difference between a $700 pair of cordovan wing tips and a $50 pair of black rubber-soled, square-toed lace-ups. And which one do you think says "my career is going swell"? Think of your shoes as investments, and treat those kicks as well as you would your car--meaning regular checkups and polishing.

NOT THAT: heavily logoed T-shirts from companies that actively target high-school and college students.  Actually, skip all shirts with logos, or at least choose something with demure brand placement. It looks bad to shill for someone else, and if you're standing in a bar next to a 21-year-old wearing the same T-shirt, you'll look like his unemployed uncle.

 

If you are in your 40s:

WEAR THIS: a trademark.  At this point, you should have mastered jackets, suits, and shoes.  Now your challenge is to show laid-back leadership: You've risen comfortably above the fray, but you're anything but retired. Find an accessory you love and then stock up.  Maybe it's cuff links.  Swiss watches.  Cashmere socks.  Pocket squares.  Choose one thing that helps you stand out, so you don't disappear in the crowd.

 

NOT THAT: rips, tears, or worn fabrics.  Sometimes a frayed edge comes into style. Sometimes modern jeans have a lot of fading. A 20-year-old can pull that off, but you'll look like Nick Nolte.

1074 Comments | Posted in News By Sal Belisario

Style and Fashion Do’s and Don’ts For Men – Part 1

Saturday, April 11, 2009 9:33:50 AM PDT

“Fashion can be bought, but style one must possess,” said Edna Woolman Chase, a pioneer fashion editor of Vogue magazine.  Men’s customs and fashions constantly change like the seasons—they come and go.  It is wise to follow current fashion trends, but do not compromise losing your individuality in the process.  If it is true that you are what you wear, then you must always infuse your own personality into your clothing unless you want to be considered just “trendy,” and not stylish or original.  Any man can emulate what he sees on the pages of GQ, Vitals, or Esquire magazine, but it is up to him to blend current fashion trends with his own unique style.  Enumerated below are fashion tips that men can incorporate into his individual fashion sense.  To our women readers, please read on so you can help your husband, boyfriend, brother, father, or male friends improve their style and appearance by applying few simple guidelines below.  

 

Short Sleeves and Tie:  This was never a fashion “do,” and I doubt it will ever be.  Unless you are bound by uniform standards like most pilots are, you should NEVER wear a tie with short sleeve shirts.  This is one of those cardinal sins that still plague some men nowadays.  If your job requires you to wear a tie, invest on long sleeve shirts.  If you happen to be a pilot or a male flight attendant, propose to change the uniform requirements to your superiors by eliminating the tie altogether or requiring long sleeve shirt with a tie.  Otherwise, you will remain atop the fashion police’s black list.  In all seriousness, the safety and comfort issues imposed by the airline industry’s uniform standard are understandable, but everyone else is exempt from committing this fashion crime.

 

Striped Shirts:  If you have not noticed, shirts with vertical stripes have been all the rage for a few seasons now.  Short men everywhere are thanking the fashion gods for this fashion trick that helps vertically challenged men appear taller.  If you are on the heavy side, stay away from shirts with horizontal stripes unless you want to accentuate your body’s width.  Caution should be taken when investing a lot of money on striped shirts that are too “trendy.”  Just like any other trend, the “in” thing at the moment can change instantly.  If you are looking into buying striped shirts, go more with the “basics” in mind.  Avoid shirts with stripes that are too pronounced and stay away from color combinations that are too bright or loud.  Every time you shop for any clothing article, keep in mind its practicality and the mileage you can get out of it.  If you are buying a shirt that looks too trendy to wear after one season, opt for something else, unless of course you are Mr. Moneybags and splurging on anything or everything “trendy” will not put you into financial hardship.  Remember, you do not have to overspend to look stylish and well put together.

 

Pleated Pants:  Most top designers today do not have a line of pleated dress pants currently displayed at your favorite department stores, and there is good reason for it.  Pleated pants, at the moment, are OUT!  Remember in the 80’s and early to mid 90’s when the more pleats your pants had, the more “in” you were?  Today, think the opposite; the more pleats your pants have, the more “out” you are.  If you are on the heavy side, be thankful for this fashion “don’t” because sporting a pair of pants with multi-pleats is not flattering on overweight men.  All it does is accentuate the bulge in the wrong places, especially when the pants are a few sizes smaller than they ought to be.  Fashion trends come and go so do not give all your pleated pants away to the Salvation Army just yet.  No doubt those pesky pleats will come back in style someday so save the quality pairs in your closet for now.  In fact, the very subtle one-pleat pants already made their way back on display at department stores.  In the meantime, shop for dress pants that are flat in the front with the pant legs cut straight or with minor flare.  Constantly updating your wardrobe can get pretty expensive, so it is wise to buy high quality “basics” that you can mix and match for a long time.  Your “basic list” may differ from someone else’s, depending upon your line of work and personality type.  In general, the basics for men’s wardrobe should include:  black, gray, brown, and navy trousers; a few plain casual long and short sleeve shirts and a couple with subtle prints; black and brown pair of shoes; black and brown belt; and black and navy suit for the business types.  Remember this paramount fashion rule:  go for quality before quantity.”  Purchasing three pairs of cheap pants that fall apart after five washings is not much of a bargain.  Buying one decent quality pair of pants for the price of three cheap ones is the better investment in the long run because they will remain a part of your wardrobe for quite some time.

 

Belt and Shoe Color:  This is another one of those prevalent and major fashion faux pas.  One of the fundamental fashion rules is that your shoes must match the color of your belt, especially when your shirt is tucked in or whenever your belt is visible.  If you never noticed this tiny yet essential detail, go to your local mall to spot a handful of fashion victims sporting a pair of black shoes with brown belt or vise versa.  There is not a polite way of saying it…this is just plain tacky!  Your belt and your shoes do not have to be of the same material as long as their color is at least in similar shade, if not the same.  If you are wearing a two-tone belt or shoes, you can get away with wearing just one of the colors from the belt or the shoes.  To be on the safe side, buy the basic black.  If and when you decide to buy a pair of brown or burgundy shoes, buy the belt that match them at the same time so you do not fall victim to this fashion “don’t.”  If you do not have a belt that matches the color of your shoes, it is be better to:  a) not tuck in your shirt, b) wear a sweater to cover your mismatched belt, c) not wear a belt at all, or d) not wear the shoes until you acquire a matching belt.  If you want to go the extra mile for bonus points, it is ideal that the band on your watch matches the color of your shoes and belt.  No one says looking good comes cheap and easy.

 

Pointed Shoes:  Shoes with pointed toes are back so hopefully you did not get rid of your quality pointed pairs from a few seasons back.  Not to say you should stop wearing your round and square toe shoes, but keep the pointed style in mind the next time you go out shopping for shoes.  Whatever pair you are wearing at any given day, make sure they are clean and polished.  Men get judged by the shoes he wears so do not get caught with a dirty or scuffed pair.  It only takes a few minutes to give your shoes a quick brush and buff before you put them on or put them away.  If you continue to care for your shoes routinely, it will be easier to maintain their pristine condition.  In addition, it is advisable to let your leather shoes “breathe” for two to three days in between wear.  If you have the means to buy extra pairs of shoes as alternates, it will help prolong the life of your shoes and minimize the smelly feet and shoes syndrome.

 

A wise man once said, “…clothes don’t make the man, but good clothes have got many a man a good job.”  Unfortunately, we live in a materialistic world where people are getting judged upon their physical and outside appearance.  Humans are diminished as “external” beings by a society that places profound emphasis on how we are perceived on the outside, instead of what we can offer intellectually, emotionally, socially, or even spiritually.  I am not suggesting that you “sell-out,” but to stay competitive in today’s job market and keep up with the Jones’ of the social ladder, you have to maintain certain aesthetic standards.  In essence, your demeanor, wardrobe, and how you present yourself becomes a reflection of who you are as an individual and how others perceive you.  Picture yourself in raggedy clothes, unkempt hair, and dirty shoes trying to reserve a table for two with a host at a fancy restaurant.  Do you think the host will treat you the same if you walked in wearing decent clothes, impeccably groomed?  It will benefit you to stand tall, dress smartly, and have a distinct personal style because whether you like it or not, this is unfortunately how most in society judge you.   

  

By:  Salvador D. Belisario, MA

Nov ‘05         

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Boxer History

Saturday, April 11, 2009 8:58:13 AM PDT

Boxer briefs are a type of men's underwear which are long in the leg, like short but tighter fitting like briefs. Boxer briefs were made famous in the early 1990's by the famous designer Calvin Klein. The underwear preference today is leaning toward boxer briefs due to the regular brief being a little too restrictive and boxer shorts being too loose. In the boxer brief the pouch can be built to add space and position the male equipment much more comfortably and also allows better support for the guy who loves to play sports.
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Check out our sale items

Sunday, March 22, 2009 4:55:43 PM PDT

We have added a lot of new sale and regular items today, check them out. We will have the new N2N spring line in stock by mid April, we are taking pre-orders, so if interested please call us at 800-605-3731 or email customerservice@excesslingerie.com. We are in the process of adding new products from Dreamgirl, if you have any favorites please let us know.
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Blog: Henry talks about lingerie

Saturday, March 21, 2009 3:26:34 PM PDT

Tired of the same 'ole routine in your bedroom? Do NOT underestimate the power of LUXURIOUS, EXOTIC and ULTRA SEXY LINGERIE. Explore the possibilities of fun, loving and role playing activities to add spice to your love life. We offer an array of quality and comfortable lingerie & undergarments to add sizzle to your bedroom. We are here to help you find that item for any special occasion (birthday, anniversary, valentine's, etc) or to just express your everyday love and commitment "just because." If your special someone is too busy to buy the lingerie for you, do him or her a favor by treating yourself to some luxurious, sexy & comfortable lingerie...you will both be thankful that you did, guaranteed! HURRY! Check out the new men's underwear from DMK, she is the talk of the town in the designer world. We have some Excess Lingerie exclusives from DMK.
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Hello World

Thursday, March 12, 2009 9:11:48 AM PDT

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